Being part of a family yama " choice assorted" aint easy coz in a way it meant that we are different (in a lot of ways) and we're siblings at the same time...........
Today, I am smiling. Simply because I finaly get along very well with my brothers and sisters...... I am still the darkest out of the whole lot though ha,ha,ha! To think that used to bother me so much so that I more than once thought that I was adopted.
We're a cool bunch though (yet again) I'm the "strange" one with sudden outbursts of statements that few people understand!!!!
BTW.....
R.I.P to Goody's mom - the woman who gave birth to one of the most talented and creative writers I know!!!! Qina ndoda.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Oh well..........
Great are the chances of being hated for saying exactly what is on your mind..... apparantly today is my day!
Now I sat and thought about this and you know what, I am ok with that! I mean what could be worse than hearing stories about you from people you don't know well and their source is someone you realy trust?
We see things differently and 4 me..... let me be punished then! I will never stop writing, especially about isht that involve me even in the tiniest way!!!
There, I've said it!
Now I sat and thought about this and you know what, I am ok with that! I mean what could be worse than hearing stories about you from people you don't know well and their source is someone you realy trust?
We see things differently and 4 me..... let me be punished then! I will never stop writing, especially about isht that involve me even in the tiniest way!!!
There, I've said it!
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
People...............
Askies but I am moving houses and getting ready for my exams............ Will be back sooner than U expect it!!!!
Peace!
Peace!
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
I just needed to get your opinion on this............ as MEN!
A man wrote:
There is no decent man out there who has no girlfriend or at least a serious partner, even if he is a pedestrian. If he says so, he's lying. No man likes to be alone, even for a few seconds. The other reason is that men by their nature wants to be worked, as in having someone to call their own. They want to be "mothered", but in a different way from kids. They want to be pampered and cared for but not to be told what not to do or do (unlike children). What does a man want: just be there for him and don't judge or say: "I told you so". Love him unconditionally and still tell him you love him even if you know he cheated on you and you told him (every man cheats at some stage and if he is not a "serial killer" everywhere, why dump him and start from scratch as if there are better men). It could make him feel ashamed next time and be careful, if you speak to him with respect. If you want to tell him about his habits that you don't like, do it when you have calmed down and in a loving way. Not when you are angry.
Men are more afraid of being on their own more than women do. I have seen many ladies who have stayed without boyfriends for up to 12 months or more and not seeing anyone, but a guy will find a new girlfriend the very day he drops you. In fact, by the time he confirms the relationship is over, he already has someone in the picture. Men always have a large supply of women to choose from and most of the time, some ladies even try all the tricks in the book to trap a man, especially when they reach that worrisome age 26 or so: By this time, If you don't have a steady boyfriend who might marry you, you might probably be in deep trouble because most guys who will come to you will be just be interested in having fun with you and go. In fact, they could be looking for people younger than you instead.
Guys have programmed themselves to do the following: the lady he calls "Umfazi" is the woman he thinks he might marry if it comes to a push and his mother is starting to complain that he is getting too old to look after himself. That's the lady he will confess to being in love with. Men usually love two women at a time but they don't see any problem with having more "nyatsis" on the side (it's something that you ladies can never get men to stop). "Umfazi" is the woman he will fight for if she is "tampered with". And he usually doesn't mind doing things for her or taking her out every now and then. In other words, she is a future "investment". If any man takes her from him, he could easily get killed. The woman he calls "Umuntu Wami" is the one who satisfies his egoistic and sexual urges. You will see that because he normally doesn't have enough time to see her because he is always "busy" or going to a "function". She is the "nyatsi" and in 99% of the cases, she will always remain one and will never take the number one spot occupied by the "Mfazi" unless a miracle happens. In fact, no "nyatsi" will become a "Umfazi" because if you can become his "nyatsi" then you are probably also somebody else's "nyatsi" besides him.
Ask most guys why they want to get married and they will tell you they are tired of cleaning after themselves or cooking after themselves. Every man needs a woman who will look after him and if you are not prepared to play the wifey role, he will eventually replace you on the number one position with someone who treats him like a king. Men are also very choosy and even more than women. The woman he met at a party will most likely stay that to him: a fun woman. No sensible man is prepared to marry a woman who was being driven around to parties by various guys. You would be lucky if he doesn't know your history. To a man. A history counts. That's why if you think you aspire to get married one day, I advise you to stay away from this lifestyle of being known as a "party animal". Men don't respect such a woman. If you met him at a party, he will never forget that. That's why he might always remind you about the past and want to know how many guys you slept with that you met at parties.
The key to keeping a man is to be accommodating and not be judgemental. If a man is impressed with the way you treat him, he will never leave you. In fact, if he goes away, he will come back running. Most ladies out there don't know how to treat a man. Don't keep reminding a man about the affairs he has had or that he has. Even if you hear rumours try to stay away from people who say them to you because they could be the route to destroying the relationship. How do you know if they are not just jealous of your relationship? Be open with a man and strict but don't judge him. Don't keep reminding him of past mistakes but make him feel that you are the best thing that ever happened to him.
The reason why men date a woman for 6 years and go marry someone new? It's simple: Most probably, you have become a burden because you lost something along the way. There must be a reason. All men want to marry a reliable and respectful woman. Every man knows there's no such thing as a perfect woman. But if you get into a relationship and behave like you are already married to him and dictating terms to him, he will eventually leave. The reason why he will marry someone new is that the time for getting married has come and he can't wait anymore. So he will take what is available and most attractive to him than marry the woman he was with for the past 6 years or so.
Men want comfort and security just like women. He wants the woman he will marry to be fun to be with and not always complaining. Why is it that most ladies start to look like domestic workers the moment they are in a steady relationship? You used to dress up for him the moment you started dating. Your weight was acceptable and you didn't complain much. The man fell in love with that picture of his "dream woman" who is almost angelic. And now, after 3 years of being together, you start feeling like "Mrs Right" and you become the opposite of the woman he fell in love with and when you go out with him, you also start dressing like you are going to clean the outside toilet of someone's yard. You also start pushing him to marry you by always asking when he will marry you. What do you expect a man to do?
As for dating men who have other girlfriends and you are single or unattached. You can't avoid it. Muthu u waniwa kha munwe in the first place. The problem is that he might not be seriously looking for a partner in you and he's just looking for a "stress reliever" . If so, some of the signs are that he will be very impatient with you. He will pressurize you to meet his needs in return for no compromise. If he has time for you in the beginning and the next thing he starts having excuses, you know what to expect. He will never change. With experience, you will come to know the difference between a man who is just playing and one who is serious. The problem with ladies is that they see the warning signs and hang in there just hoping the signs are either wrong or will go away.
Relationships are a gamble. You shouldn't put more efforts than is needed to make a decent relationship work. You must know when to stay and when to run for your life. Don't waste time on something that is not improving. Hanging around with a man who is looking elsewhere will stop you from finding someone who will eventually marry you. Most relationships start the same: they are wonderful. Whether it continues like that is another story which you need to pay good attention to. Stay awake
There is no decent man out there who has no girlfriend or at least a serious partner, even if he is a pedestrian. If he says so, he's lying. No man likes to be alone, even for a few seconds. The other reason is that men by their nature wants to be worked, as in having someone to call their own. They want to be "mothered", but in a different way from kids. They want to be pampered and cared for but not to be told what not to do or do (unlike children). What does a man want: just be there for him and don't judge or say: "I told you so". Love him unconditionally and still tell him you love him even if you know he cheated on you and you told him (every man cheats at some stage and if he is not a "serial killer" everywhere, why dump him and start from scratch as if there are better men). It could make him feel ashamed next time and be careful, if you speak to him with respect. If you want to tell him about his habits that you don't like, do it when you have calmed down and in a loving way. Not when you are angry.
Men are more afraid of being on their own more than women do. I have seen many ladies who have stayed without boyfriends for up to 12 months or more and not seeing anyone, but a guy will find a new girlfriend the very day he drops you. In fact, by the time he confirms the relationship is over, he already has someone in the picture. Men always have a large supply of women to choose from and most of the time, some ladies even try all the tricks in the book to trap a man, especially when they reach that worrisome age 26 or so: By this time, If you don't have a steady boyfriend who might marry you, you might probably be in deep trouble because most guys who will come to you will be just be interested in having fun with you and go. In fact, they could be looking for people younger than you instead.
Guys have programmed themselves to do the following: the lady he calls "Umfazi" is the woman he thinks he might marry if it comes to a push and his mother is starting to complain that he is getting too old to look after himself. That's the lady he will confess to being in love with. Men usually love two women at a time but they don't see any problem with having more "nyatsis" on the side (it's something that you ladies can never get men to stop). "Umfazi" is the woman he will fight for if she is "tampered with". And he usually doesn't mind doing things for her or taking her out every now and then. In other words, she is a future "investment". If any man takes her from him, he could easily get killed. The woman he calls "Umuntu Wami" is the one who satisfies his egoistic and sexual urges. You will see that because he normally doesn't have enough time to see her because he is always "busy" or going to a "function". She is the "nyatsi" and in 99% of the cases, she will always remain one and will never take the number one spot occupied by the "Mfazi" unless a miracle happens. In fact, no "nyatsi" will become a "Umfazi" because if you can become his "nyatsi" then you are probably also somebody else's "nyatsi" besides him.
Ask most guys why they want to get married and they will tell you they are tired of cleaning after themselves or cooking after themselves. Every man needs a woman who will look after him and if you are not prepared to play the wifey role, he will eventually replace you on the number one position with someone who treats him like a king. Men are also very choosy and even more than women. The woman he met at a party will most likely stay that to him: a fun woman. No sensible man is prepared to marry a woman who was being driven around to parties by various guys. You would be lucky if he doesn't know your history. To a man. A history counts. That's why if you think you aspire to get married one day, I advise you to stay away from this lifestyle of being known as a "party animal". Men don't respect such a woman. If you met him at a party, he will never forget that. That's why he might always remind you about the past and want to know how many guys you slept with that you met at parties.
The key to keeping a man is to be accommodating and not be judgemental. If a man is impressed with the way you treat him, he will never leave you. In fact, if he goes away, he will come back running. Most ladies out there don't know how to treat a man. Don't keep reminding a man about the affairs he has had or that he has. Even if you hear rumours try to stay away from people who say them to you because they could be the route to destroying the relationship. How do you know if they are not just jealous of your relationship? Be open with a man and strict but don't judge him. Don't keep reminding him of past mistakes but make him feel that you are the best thing that ever happened to him.
The reason why men date a woman for 6 years and go marry someone new? It's simple: Most probably, you have become a burden because you lost something along the way. There must be a reason. All men want to marry a reliable and respectful woman. Every man knows there's no such thing as a perfect woman. But if you get into a relationship and behave like you are already married to him and dictating terms to him, he will eventually leave. The reason why he will marry someone new is that the time for getting married has come and he can't wait anymore. So he will take what is available and most attractive to him than marry the woman he was with for the past 6 years or so.
Men want comfort and security just like women. He wants the woman he will marry to be fun to be with and not always complaining. Why is it that most ladies start to look like domestic workers the moment they are in a steady relationship? You used to dress up for him the moment you started dating. Your weight was acceptable and you didn't complain much. The man fell in love with that picture of his "dream woman" who is almost angelic. And now, after 3 years of being together, you start feeling like "Mrs Right" and you become the opposite of the woman he fell in love with and when you go out with him, you also start dressing like you are going to clean the outside toilet of someone's yard. You also start pushing him to marry you by always asking when he will marry you. What do you expect a man to do?
As for dating men who have other girlfriends and you are single or unattached. You can't avoid it. Muthu u waniwa kha munwe in the first place. The problem is that he might not be seriously looking for a partner in you and he's just looking for a "stress reliever" . If so, some of the signs are that he will be very impatient with you. He will pressurize you to meet his needs in return for no compromise. If he has time for you in the beginning and the next thing he starts having excuses, you know what to expect. He will never change. With experience, you will come to know the difference between a man who is just playing and one who is serious. The problem with ladies is that they see the warning signs and hang in there just hoping the signs are either wrong or will go away.
Relationships are a gamble. You shouldn't put more efforts than is needed to make a decent relationship work. You must know when to stay and when to run for your life. Don't waste time on something that is not improving. Hanging around with a man who is looking elsewhere will stop you from finding someone who will eventually marry you. Most relationships start the same: they are wonderful. Whether it continues like that is another story which you need to pay good attention to. Stay awake
Friday, May 15, 2009
Darn it... I can't help wanting to talk about me and the somewhat crazy isht that happens in this my life!
I really don't know what is worse.....
Me being told that I am apparently in a porno-video made by some strange dudes in Nelspruit. At first I thought bullshit coz I know for a fact that it doesn't exist. I have never been in any room besides News Cafe with them.
Now this is the shit that people go around telling to other people, some who may just be potential lovers/baby-daddy/hubby - who knows, but I must say that it is disturbing to hear such - especially when you are trying to enjoy a Sunday evening.
I am a sex starved female and there are such rumours are spreading like swine-flu! At a point I thought "oh, W.T.F I might as well be actually doing what they say I am doing" but fortunately my senses came back before I could dial up this hot, yummy gentleman that I have had very unholy thoughts of.
I am not that type of person, but being as misunderstood as I am..... who'll care to listen. I will chill with the hope that the truth will come out - somehow! Playing defensive all the time kinda looks foolish!
Then.......... there is a dude at work bugging me like crazy, the last thing I could evr do is shag a person I have to work with, awkwardness aint my thing!!!! Besides I'd have to think happy thought about another man to get me going!!!!
I am moving out of my 1 bed-flat, bye-bye freedom and roaming around in the nude!!!!
An ex of mine...... (check 2007 posts) recently contacted me after 2 years of silence and he wants to meet. Normally I would tell him to fuck-off but I chose to be nice this time. I feel sorry for the guy.... cosidering the way I ended it with him, shame.... the least he deserves is an answer! So I am taking him out for supper. Do ya'll think that is too much from my side?
I ask this coz I have noticed that when ex's sense that you might be having a problem, they'll "pity" you and you'll end up making out and that will lead him to this he was the best this to ever happen in your life,that you can't be without him...... you know such idiotic thoughts nje!!!!!
Hollar!
Me being told that I am apparently in a porno-video made by some strange dudes in Nelspruit. At first I thought bullshit coz I know for a fact that it doesn't exist. I have never been in any room besides News Cafe with them.
Now this is the shit that people go around telling to other people, some who may just be potential lovers/baby-daddy/hubby - who knows, but I must say that it is disturbing to hear such - especially when you are trying to enjoy a Sunday evening.
I am a sex starved female and there are such rumours are spreading like swine-flu! At a point I thought "oh, W.T.F I might as well be actually doing what they say I am doing" but fortunately my senses came back before I could dial up this hot, yummy gentleman that I have had very unholy thoughts of.
I am not that type of person, but being as misunderstood as I am..... who'll care to listen. I will chill with the hope that the truth will come out - somehow! Playing defensive all the time kinda looks foolish!
Then.......... there is a dude at work bugging me like crazy, the last thing I could evr do is shag a person I have to work with, awkwardness aint my thing!!!! Besides I'd have to think happy thought about another man to get me going!!!!
I am moving out of my 1 bed-flat, bye-bye freedom and roaming around in the nude!!!!
An ex of mine...... (check 2007 posts) recently contacted me after 2 years of silence and he wants to meet. Normally I would tell him to fuck-off but I chose to be nice this time. I feel sorry for the guy.... cosidering the way I ended it with him, shame.... the least he deserves is an answer! So I am taking him out for supper. Do ya'll think that is too much from my side?
I ask this coz I have noticed that when ex's sense that you might be having a problem, they'll "pity" you and you'll end up making out and that will lead him to this he was the best this to ever happen in your life,that you can't be without him...... you know such idiotic thoughts nje!!!!!
Hollar!
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
More on Mfundo............. and the Coke ad.
Mfundo (who is behind the latest series of Coke adverts) has been busy this past week, finding out that Teko Modise and Mandla Masango will be helping out, that Coke will support him improving his advert, and that he has received so much support from South Africa as a whole. Not many 21 year-olds can say that they have been given such an amazing opportunity.
This said, Teko and Mandla did come in and help with the boys improving their moves and the result is absolutely hilarious. Both Teko and Mandla use unorthodox training methods, such as Pogo Sticks, and horns on a helmet, but these do seem to work. Take a look at Mpho’s encounter with Mandla ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fnKNk438zWM) and Titch’s experience with Teko ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8yQ9ifhg4s). These will be aired throughout this week!
This said, Teko and Mandla did come in and help with the boys improving their moves and the result is absolutely hilarious. Both Teko and Mandla use unorthodox training methods, such as Pogo Sticks, and horns on a helmet, but these do seem to work. Take a look at Mpho’s encounter with Mandla ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fnKNk438zWM) and Titch’s experience with Teko ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8yQ9ifhg4s). These will be aired throughout this week!
Friday, May 8, 2009
Ad's, Ho'z and Amadlozi....
Oh what a busy week I've had.....
Almost had forgotten how I actually looked like, havin no time to look in the mirror properly and I missed coming in here dearly. So I am stealing a few minutes of my working time to update ya'll.
I had tons of issues to bitch about the entire week but I guess I got over them so I'm gon' be nice. talking about nice, I am actually a very nice person that tolerates the most f*cked up nonsense.
Like my one friend expecting to come to here rescue everytime she is bored but when I am the one who needs her company - she is either sleeping with the man or they want to have quality time. Yeah, I thought maybe I should understand as I do not have a man anymore.... but when shit goes wrong between her and her man, I have to be there!!!! Now do ya'll think that is fair in any way?????
This ia a person I have chilled with almost every weekend for 2 years then suddenly there was none of that. Haai......
On the tip of Men, the Lord I dig men but darn it there are just a few that know how to make one dislike them.
Take this dude that we were with at a party, he was cool in the beginning until we all (me, the girls and him) went to my place to drink some more and get some munchies. He went off and fell asleep on my couch, when I tried waking him up he said that he was much too drunk to drive back home and asked if he can just nap for a lil' bit. Me being me, I showed him the bedroom and he went. I took the girls home and when I came back, there the dude was sleeping naked on my bed......... It gets better..........he starts calling baby/sweety!!!! WTF
So I got into my tracksuite (PJ's are easy to take off) and slept with my legs crossed, it looked a bit stupid but hey, I wasn't about to let some old dude get me ( we have to do things the Khensy way). He tried all the stunts one can think off but I was just like "N*gga f*ck off and sleep or get the F*ck outta my house!!! He slept, in the morning he woke up to tell me that "amadlozi akhe angeke ajabule ngoba ulale eceleni komfazi wangameza lutho".
Now seriously which idoit buys that story?
He forgot his watch at my place so now I have to carry it evrywhere I go incase I bump into him, He is no longer welcomed at my place.
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On a diff tip.....
I saw Mfundo Mkhize's ad on the different channels this week, I must admit that the first time I saw it I didn't understand what the hell was going on..... I saw too many things at the same time. The more I saw it the better I sorta got the whole plot of it.
If I were to be asked what I thought about it, I'd say: Funny, def different from any ad I've ever seen!!! I haven't heard what other people think about it yet, it would interesting to hear other opinions afterall we all don't see think the same right?!?
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I have a new skeem, I am still trying to understand what the hell goes on in that chick's mind! She just goes with the flow - you know, the flow that I hate going with!!!! To the extend I saw her shagging 3 diff dudes in 1 weekend!!!! Yoh, that was just too deep baba. I mean wo does that in this day and age?????
So I avoided the heavy confrontation, ya'll know I was gon' tripp on her for her stunts but I am waiting to see if that will repeat itself, coz if it does I'll be on her case - even if she hates me for it..... I would have still said my piece!!!!
She's so pretty and smart, I do not undestand whay she does this coz I know it aint for money!!!
Now I know I am not exactly an angel here but dang man, sometimes one has to keep good, I'd hate to be known as a slut in a small town!!!!
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Enjoy the weekend!!!!
Almost had forgotten how I actually looked like, havin no time to look in the mirror properly and I missed coming in here dearly. So I am stealing a few minutes of my working time to update ya'll.
I had tons of issues to bitch about the entire week but I guess I got over them so I'm gon' be nice. talking about nice, I am actually a very nice person that tolerates the most f*cked up nonsense.
Like my one friend expecting to come to here rescue everytime she is bored but when I am the one who needs her company - she is either sleeping with the man or they want to have quality time. Yeah, I thought maybe I should understand as I do not have a man anymore.... but when shit goes wrong between her and her man, I have to be there!!!! Now do ya'll think that is fair in any way?????
This ia a person I have chilled with almost every weekend for 2 years then suddenly there was none of that. Haai......
On the tip of Men, the Lord I dig men but darn it there are just a few that know how to make one dislike them.
Take this dude that we were with at a party, he was cool in the beginning until we all (me, the girls and him) went to my place to drink some more and get some munchies. He went off and fell asleep on my couch, when I tried waking him up he said that he was much too drunk to drive back home and asked if he can just nap for a lil' bit. Me being me, I showed him the bedroom and he went. I took the girls home and when I came back, there the dude was sleeping naked on my bed......... It gets better..........he starts calling baby/sweety!!!! WTF
So I got into my tracksuite (PJ's are easy to take off) and slept with my legs crossed, it looked a bit stupid but hey, I wasn't about to let some old dude get me ( we have to do things the Khensy way). He tried all the stunts one can think off but I was just like "N*gga f*ck off and sleep or get the F*ck outta my house!!! He slept, in the morning he woke up to tell me that "amadlozi akhe angeke ajabule ngoba ulale eceleni komfazi wangameza lutho".
Now seriously which idoit buys that story?
He forgot his watch at my place so now I have to carry it evrywhere I go incase I bump into him, He is no longer welcomed at my place.
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On a diff tip.....
I saw Mfundo Mkhize's ad on the different channels this week, I must admit that the first time I saw it I didn't understand what the hell was going on..... I saw too many things at the same time. The more I saw it the better I sorta got the whole plot of it.
If I were to be asked what I thought about it, I'd say: Funny, def different from any ad I've ever seen!!! I haven't heard what other people think about it yet, it would interesting to hear other opinions afterall we all don't see think the same right?!?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I have a new skeem, I am still trying to understand what the hell goes on in that chick's mind! She just goes with the flow - you know, the flow that I hate going with!!!! To the extend I saw her shagging 3 diff dudes in 1 weekend!!!! Yoh, that was just too deep baba. I mean wo does that in this day and age?????
So I avoided the heavy confrontation, ya'll know I was gon' tripp on her for her stunts but I am waiting to see if that will repeat itself, coz if it does I'll be on her case - even if she hates me for it..... I would have still said my piece!!!!
She's so pretty and smart, I do not undestand whay she does this coz I know it aint for money!!!
Now I know I am not exactly an angel here but dang man, sometimes one has to keep good, I'd hate to be known as a slut in a small town!!!!
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Enjoy the weekend!!!!
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